you may have to seperate your income from hers , then split the house hold bills down the middle with each paying half then tell her if she wants to give them money it will have to come out of HER income while you put whats left of yours in savings . thats pretty much what i had to do for a while . once she relized there wasn't all this extra money around it stopped pretty damn quick.
I can see that coming next: separating our incomes. To answer some ones else s reply , My Stepson and his wife are terrible with money. They both have good paying Jobs, he works for a major utility company and she is a grade school teacher . She is extremely materialistic and shallow.
Once We all went to a restaurant ,for lunch, after Church.My wife's son offered to pay the bill and we accepted. I was shocked, because usually when we go out, with them, we end up paying for the meal.
The next day my wife called me from work crying. I asked her what was wrong and she told me to check my email.She had forwarded me an email from her daughter in law. In the email she said, the daughter in law, that my wife was selfish and she did not want to help her own son. She accused my wife of being an abusive parent.She said that my wife's son was merely making a gesture when he offered to pay for the meal and we should not have accepted his offer. She went on to say , in the email, that they were having a hard time financially and a decent parent would offer to help.She went on and on about what terrible people my wife and I were.
My wife was afraid to say anything about all this because she thought if she made her sons wife mad , she would not let my wife see the grand kids.
This was extremely upsetting for my wife. I printed out a copy of the email and gave it to my step son. I told him how upset this made his mother. He just said " well you know she's like that" Talking about his wife.
I was brought up to not expect anything from anyone.If I want something I get it on my own. I have worked hard all my life to get where I am today.It annoys me to no end when some one always has their hand out.